I’ve never met a grandparent who doesn’t have a huge smile when talking about their newborn grandchild. My newest is now two months old. We look into each other’s eyes. I give her my undivided attention and she smiles with her whole body. Little ones remind us of our basic human relationship needs: to love […]
Just add hot water” it says on the package of the strawberries and cream instant oatmeal. When I need to get out the door and want a quick breakfast, it’s there, ready and fills my hunger. When it comes to hunger in relationships, “just add hot water” will do the opposite. It’s instant. A certain […]
It’s those magical “ah ha” moments that make marital therapy a highlight in my counseling practice. Most come in with intense conflict, discouragement, or crisis. Then the moment of truth emerges. I’ve had some “ah ha” moments of my own. Drs. John and Julie Gottman call it the Four Horseman of the Apocalypse – identifying what […]
We’re designed for relationship. We all long to be loved unconditionally by another human being. Yet we balk at being known. It’s too risky. We wear masks that hide our vulnerability. Or we’ve been authentic in the past and it wasn’t worth it. Whether you’re single, never married, or widowed or divorced it’s important to know […]
Most of us don’t even know it when we’re doing it. We do it often. Then we can’t understand how the other person gets so reactive to what we just said. We end up thinking or saying things like, I can’t even share how I feel. . . […]
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