How 5 Regrets Are Life Lessons
Some folks say they intend to live with no regrets. And I think, really? Is that even possible?
I don’t believe we can live our entire lives without regrets.
No matter how intentional we are, we all experience regrets. Those of us who admit our regrets can become stuck in sadness with focused attention around helplessness. There’s nothing I can do about it now.
After having lost two loved ones recently (my friend, Marcia and my mother-in-law, Mary Ruth), my attention is drawn to lessons we can learn from regrets of the dying. With her care of people through hospice work, Bronnie Ware identified the five regrets of the dying. This list has been in my planner all year in 2016.
1. Have the courage to live life true to yourself and not what others expect.
Ancient literature reminds us of how universal fear is to our humanity. I highlighted several references of God’s message to Joshua in my Bible. Joshua was the one to champion the nation of Israel into the promised land. (Old Testament, book of Joshua) There’s several phrases of Be strong and of good courage along with more messages of Do not be afraid.
Notice that a pre-requisite for courage is fear. Let’s face it. We are all fearful at times. I believe fears (or any emotions we experience) are invitations to us from God to grow. Fear and courage are a necessary part of our growth.
2. Don’t work so hard.
We need to honor the God-given design of our bodies. Our brains need sleep, and our bodies need nutrition and exercise. Dr. Dan Seigel has a great diagram of our daily requirement for a healthy mind. Too many of us have stress-related health issues, and strained relationships due to overwork.
3. Express feelings.
Many of us don’t have words to describe how we feel. Or we may be constantly on the go and don’t notice our feelings. When we’re triggered in an instant, we fail to pause and explore what might really be going on. Instead, we medicate with social media or screen time.
4. Stay in touch with friends.
I fall short in this category and must admit I’d never been to any of my high-school reunions. Even though we have years of disconnect from former friends, it’s never too late to fill in that gap.
5. Let yourself be happy.
Some of us take ourselves way too seriously. When my husband meets new people, he usually asks, What do you do for fun? It’s amazing how many people just pause and are unsure how to answer.
As we get ready for Thanksgiving and the Holiday activities, may we take these five lessons to heart:
- Be courageous and true to yourself
- Relax from work
- Express your feelings
- Enjoy friendships
- Be happy.
Questions to Ponder
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2022 by Judy K. Herman 
